35 Fearless Questions: Part I

Apparently these came from V.anityFair. I find that magazine to be more than a bit overreaching. That's precisely rolled my eyes so hard I feared for their ability to stay attached when a coworker once mentioned "off-handedly" that a few family friends were in a recent issue and blah blah I forgot to listen to the rest. Please give me a break. I snatched the questions from another blogger who writes marvelously! Reading fabulous writers inspires me to write fabulously. So from her fabulosity to mine...

1. What is your idea of perfect happiness?
That look of drunken joy. You know the one. Where it's the perfect temperature (72-76 degrees), you're eating outside (at the beach) with good friends and good drinks. You're lying if you say it can get better than that.

2. What is your greatest fear?
Dying alone.

3. Which living person do you most admire?
My mom. I think she's so awesome.

4. What is the trait you most deplore in yourself?
Procrastination. I'm a perfectionist so you would think these two would be at odds, constantly warring for top dog position. You would be right. It does make for interesting internal commentary but takes bursts of inspiration to really get things accomplished. And deplore? I'm not sure that's the word I would use. Probably more like it exasperates me.

5. What is the trait you most deplore in others?
A lax attitude. People who don't take pride in their work or care about the results are the bane of my existence. When I complain about these sorts, my dad says, "It takes all kinds." But I say, WHY????

6. What do you consider the most overrated virtue?
Virtue is not overrated. That's part of the problem now. We celebrate vices and attack virtue.

7. On what occasion do you lie?
Requesting a bit of honesty, eh? I try not to lie when people ask me questions. I don't like to hurt feelings but sometimes it happens when they ask for an honest answer. I'm not very good at mincing words. My mom told me honesty was of utmost importance when I was very little and I took it to heart. Now when do I lie... hmmm... let me think about that one. I lie when asked to divulge something I've been asked not to talk about. I'll act like I don't know.

8. What do you dislike most about your appearance?
This is a hard one. My hair irritates me some days because it is just so unruly. But generally I'm happy with my appearance. I always have been. If you don't like something about yourself change it or accept it. Wallowing in your perceived faults is a waste of time and energy.

9. What is your greatest regret?
I don't believe in regrets, either. We all make mistakes. Did you learn from it? Good, then don't regret it. You wouldn't be able to take the lesson without it. Your trials are preparation for your triumphs. (c)Jameil 2008.

10. What or who is the greatest love of your life?
I don't know. I don't think I've met him yet. But I've been asking God to prepare me for him.

11. Which talent would you most like to have?
I'm pretty satisfied with the ones I have. But I do think it would be nice to be able to flip. I've always been too frightened of busting my head open (no matter the supporting surface) to try. I didn't even learn how to do a cartwheel until I was about 13. I learned to do a round off shortly thereafter. I chose not to go further. I like my head. But I used to ask Ash to do it on the grass at Hampton. I would clap and cheer. Lol.

12. What is your current state of mind?
Luminous. Expectant. Thoughtful.

13. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
I guess the procrastination.

14. What do you consider your greatest achievement?
I haven't had it yet. I told my father a few weeks back I'm going to be a success. He said, "You already are." I was taken aback. I said, "Awww... thanks Dad. But it's not enough." His reply? "It never is for successful people." Deep. Then he brought up Rocky saying being a lawyer wasn't enough, then being state senator, then U.S. senator, now President. He believes Rocky will re-define presidencies. Did you just put me in the same category as Rocky? I had to end the conversation. I like compliments but sometimes it overwhelms me to know my parents, the ones who raised me and brought me into this world, think so highly of me. They don't say it a lot so when they do it means that much more.

15. If you were to die and come back as a person or thing, what do you think it would be?
Oooh. That's interesting. A ladybug?

16. What is your most treasured possession?
My magnificent mind. You can't take any of this stuff with you when you die, alas, not even those navy blue velvet and satin pumps with the pleated toe and dainty bow which I'm oh so tempted to wear daily. The only thing that goes on for eternity is your soul. And really, everything can be replaced. Sometimes when I think these things I feel like maybe I grew up too privileged. We weren't rich but firmly middle class where my mother did not have to work, but chose to and we never really wanted for anything. We weren't spoiled, but loved. No, really. We're very down to earth children (my sister and I) which I think accounts for the lack of attachment to worldly goods.

Part II to come.


Dopelikelouboutins said...

I haven't commented in forever! I like these questions very thought provoking.
My hair gets on my nerves simply cause I'm never statisfied with it. I hate being such a procrastinator I'm working hard on not being one this year
nice post :-)

Sparkling Red said...

Re: #6 - that is SO TRUE! Well said.

Re: #13 - I love that your state of mind is luminous. That's such a wonderful descriptor! I shall aspire to a luminous state of mind.

Open Grove Claudia said...

Lady bug, lady bug. You'd get to eat aphids and love them! ;)

Desy said...

1. That does sound appealing… I may have to try that one day

2. Ditto

3. I'm glad you're one of those who actually APPRECIATE that relationships… I hate it when people don't

4. Doesn’t everyone procrastinate… it should just be expected since we ALL do it…lol

5. Lax attitude… that is definitely an aggravating trait

6. Tru tru

7. That's not really lying… that's more like ducking and I would understand if that occurred… a subtle way of saying 'it's not my business to tell so leave me alone'

8. Hair is the bane of black women's existence some days

9. Hear hear!

10. I guess for now… wouldn't God be it? (since it said What or Who)

11. I'm all about flippin (into my pool)…lol

12. *nodding head* ok

13. *nodding head again* ok

14. Nice to see you are continuing to strive…cause if you think u've achieved your Greatest accomplishment.. Then where else is there to go?

15. Lmao…ladybug jam?... Wondermous

16. What a wonderful thing to respect… few people appreciate their mind, hence the lack of nurturing and feeding…

can you tell i had time?...lol

Charreah said...

We're so HERE

Lax attitudes . ..the worst

Virture .. . so necessary and overrated

Days on the beach . . .heaven.

Looking forward to part two!!

Jameil said...

diamonds... welcome back! hair. oh hair.

red... danke! i stole luminous from myspace. i love it!

claud... lmao! of all the things!

desy... you are so extra. you HAVE to do a day on the beach w/friends w/good food & drink. glad we are so in agreement. lol.

cj... lax attitudes make me want to become a cutter... but on the person responsible... is that bad? lol. oh beach. beach beach i miss you.

La said...

Oooh good questions.

Doesn't everyone fear dying alone? Especially if they know they are not die aloneable material? (get it?)

Dumb ass hair, lol

Good questions.

Momisodes said...

I love that your parents think so highly of you, as they should. I firmly believe that is a key factor in raising a happy, successful child. That said, my parents have zero faith in me.

Can't wait to read Part II

Adei von K said...

aren't you just a ball of contentment?


awwwwww! I think ladybugs are the cutest thing! and you know that they are considered good luck? i just found that out from Kitty's mom!

I'm sorry, i tend to comment backwards.
who from pittsburgh, has family members that were in vanity fair?

Jameil said...

la... did you like the questions. i am most CERTAINLY not die aloneable material!! lol. horrid hair!

sandy... i'm appalled your parents don't think highly of you!! that's awful!

stace... mostly content, yes. I MISS THE BEACH!! yes i know they're supposed to be good luck. i just think they're cute. she's not from pittsburgh. the tall one. the regular name dropper. *eye roll*

San said...

You are smart and at an early age. To know already that you don't believe in regrets--that's a huge time-and-life-saver. Also, to be praying for God to prepare you for "the one." Yup, that's the way to pray.

Jameil said...

san... are you the sweetest person ever or what??? geez! thank you so much!