Showing posts with label marriage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label marriage. Show all posts

3.30.2008

Reasons Not To Get Engaged

People. Please stop rushing into marriage. IT'S NOT GOING ANYWHERE!! I'd rather be single for the rest of my life than attached before God, my family, friends and all his family and friends to someone who is not meant for me. In no particular order...

1) Because your ex did.
2) Because your best friend did.
3) Because you have been planning your wedding for so long and have a wedding binder already with all the details and only need to insert groom here.
4) Because you've already tried on wedding dresses and know exactly which one you're gonna get.
5) Because you had to get on a waiting list for the perfect location (which you did years in advance before you even met your current boyfriend) AND THE DATE'S COMING UP!
6) Because you're not getting any younger.
7) Because your significant other's not getting any younger.
8) Because your mother told you to.
9) Because you guys have been together so long it's either this or break up.
10) (For all you S.teveHarvey listeners, that's "Numbaa teeeeen!"
Because you already have 5 kids together. (That might actually be the best reason of all of the ones on my list but it depends on the circumstances.)

These are all true stories. Please don't get added to the list. But I know you have some! Spill it!

*ALSO... It's the baby sister's birthday today! Happy 24th Elaina! (You are mad old.)

12.15.2006

When are you getting married?

This is one of the most annoying questions you can ever ask me. Do you really think I know? If I knew the answer to that question, I would have a ring on my finger. Yes, I want to get married. Yes, I may have talked about marriage with the bf. No, we don't know when if it has come up. No, I also do not think you (the endless questioner) need to be the first to know.

Asking me about it every other month will not make the date come any faster. Asking me about it every other week will not make the date come faster. Asking me about it every time you see me alone or in a relaxed atmosphere... guess what? WILL NOT MAKE THE DATE COME FASTER!!!

I am 24 years old. 24. I have a pretty good job, make decent money, with few bills. Can I live on my own for a while before I start shacking up (if ever), getting married and having babies? I've never lived on my own. My parents house, then in a dorm for 4 years, then back to my mom's house, now I'm living with my dad. I would like to just once in my life live on my own before I go straight to the house me and my husband will own. Is that so much to ask? And no I'm not ready to move out yet. I may wait until I leave Pittsburgh. The point is I DON'T KNOW!! SO STOP ASKING!!

This is annoying when you are single. It is annoying when you're in a committed relationship. It's annoying when you hit a year and people act like perhaps you need to be moving it along because you're not getting any younger. What the hell is the rush? No, I don't want to necessarily wait until I'm 30, but that doesn't mean I need to run down the aisle right now. Marriage is a big commitment I only want to make once. It's annoying when half of the married people you have regular contact with are trying to pressure you in that direction. LEAVE ME ALONE!! I PROMISE I'LL SEND OUT ANNOUNCEMENTS WHEN THE TIME COMES!!!

This has been on my mind a while because one of my work friends stalks me about it and it drives me nuts. She told me she was the last of her friends to get married, which makes me wonder why she choses to torture me this way. I'm sure she heard that from her group of 5 or 7 more than a few times. HEY!! CAN YOU LET IT GO!! Sweetlime asked the question and you can see I was more than ready to provide an answer.

Some things you just want to keep to yourself. Maybe the bf and I have talked about it to each other or other people or maybe we haven't. Or maybe we'll never get married or marry other people. Maybe I'll end up the 96-year-old cat lady with no eyebrows who sits at home singing "Dum dum didday!" Who's to say? But asking me about it. It doesn't make it come faster. If you're married and you're reading this, stop antagonizing all of your single friends. Next along this line: male biological clocks. It will be riveting.