Reasons Not To Get Engaged

People. Please stop rushing into marriage. IT'S NOT GOING ANYWHERE!! I'd rather be single for the rest of my life than attached before God, my family, friends and all his family and friends to someone who is not meant for me. In no particular order...

1) Because your ex did.
2) Because your best friend did.
3) Because you have been planning your wedding for so long and have a wedding binder already with all the details and only need to insert groom here.
4) Because you've already tried on wedding dresses and know exactly which one you're gonna get.
5) Because you had to get on a waiting list for the perfect location (which you did years in advance before you even met your current boyfriend) AND THE DATE'S COMING UP!
6) Because you're not getting any younger.
7) Because your significant other's not getting any younger.
8) Because your mother told you to.
9) Because you guys have been together so long it's either this or break up.
10) (For all you S.teveHarvey listeners, that's "Numbaa teeeeen!"
Because you already have 5 kids together. (That might actually be the best reason of all of the ones on my list but it depends on the circumstances.)

These are all true stories. Please don't get added to the list. But I know you have some! Spill it!

*ALSO... It's the baby sister's birthday today! Happy 24th Elaina! (You are mad old.)


Desy said...

Because you have been planning your wedding for so long and have a wedding binder already with all the details and only need to insert groom here

woooooooooow~ someone did that? now that's what i call focus...lol

hmmm- never get married because your drunk self thinks it was a good idea

Sparkling Red said...

That's it! You tell it! Incontestably good advice. But some people always have to learn the hard way.

Opinionated Diva said...

lmao@"you are mad old"!!!

Happy Birthday to the baby sis!

I have quite a few friends who got married for many of the reasons on your list. The marriages were over before they even started, but would they listen to me when I asked them to rethink this??? Nope...some people are just hardheaded.

I'm dying to tell the story of the WACKIEST, WORST wedding I've ever been to, but unfortunately my homie reads and she would kill me...that marriage didn't last either though.

1969 said...

Happy Birthday to your baby sis!!!

Don't get married cause you're in Vegas and bored at 3am.

jameil1922 said...

desy... yes girl. more than one someone did that. that's beyond focus to crazy & obsessed. that's a good one.

red... lolol. don't they tho? i know this chick who filed divorce papers the day after her daughter's first birthday... she'd been married less than 2 years. why'd you even bother?

diva... hahahaha. i have to send this to her. i need you to come back and spill it abt that wedding right here! or email me! you know i need to know!! i live for wedding details. whose wedding is it anyway is no doubt one of my fave shows.

1969... EXCELLENT addition!

Opinionated Diva said...

lol..I'll shoot you an email later today.

Chris said...

People think their time is running short and they want someone to spend their time with, that's why everyone's rushing to get married. Hell, I'm entering that line of thinking as we speak.

And if your younger is old...what does that make you? *runs*

Stacie von Kutieboots said...

peep the label 'desperation'!! LOL

that's what ALL of them sound like!

and you know my mom is about to get in that nagging boat abt marriage... I can feel it. esp since my dad brought up grandchildren over Christmas break...

SimplEnigma said...

OMG, What a freakishly weird coincidence. I too wrote a post about marriage today and came over here to see you had done the same. :) I only have one thing to add. Amen.

@Desy, yes I know a few. Sad but true.

Happy Bday to your little sis! :)

Sandy C. said...

How sad is it that I know someone that fits into every.single.one of those categories listed. Some falling into more than one :(

But I agree your list is very, very sound advice.

the joy said...

You forgot 2 very important ones:

Because you're currently pregnant and because he asked. Ooh, or for to stay in the country. Or to make anyone in particular mad/ jealous.

jameil1922 said...

diva... countdown to checking the email.... i only hope there are also pics!

chris... i thought it went w/o saying (if i didn't) that's not a reason either. that's how people end up divorced quicker than the ink dries on the license. i don't understand that last part of your comment.

stace... you know that label cracked me up! i'm so glad my mom's not there. my cousins getting engaged at 28 & 31 respectively SO saved me so praise Jesus for that! i was too excited.

SE... ha! AMEN!

sandy... not falling into multiple categories! that's horrendous!! and thanks! it had to be said. i see people matching up what seems like daily!

jameil1922 said...

joy... giirrrrl!! all excellent! i know someone who fits into all of those too!!!!!!! IGNORANT!!! PEOPLE STOP DOING THIS!!!!!!!!!

Rashan Jamal said...

Let me add a few

1. Because you have low self esteem and you think that nobody else will ever want you.

2. Because your girl makes 30k more than you and you are trying to cash in.

3. Because you are already living with him and a wedding is a good way to get people to buy you stuff to furnish you house with.

All true stories from people I know. LOL

Los Angelista said...


You should write a book with these reasons! Oh, and Rashan's additions are totally on point. I also know someone who planned to be a house husband for the rest of his days. Too bad wifey's in real estate and isn't selling those homes like she used to.

Miss B said...

I could NOT agree with you more!!! People rushing to the alter, just because...

Because you have been planning your wedding for so long and have a wedding binder already with all the details and only need to insert groom here - I had a friend do that a couple times. Stooopit!!

PCD (Pretty Circle Drawer) said...

wel, technically, i had a wedding binder with all my details and stuff for about 8 years before i got married....but i had to. it was for a marriage and family course, and that was a project. whats funny is, my actual wedding was NOTHING like what i had designed years before-LOL!

Opinionated Diva said...

Gosh you are so pushy! So what I lied and said I'd have it for you yesterday and still haven't delivered! lol

OK...it's coming. It's maaaaaaaaad long though! I only have one pic and it's of me with this wacky hairdo. I look like I have a tower of pineapples atop my head! I still owned it as I strutted down the "aisle" though.

It's coming!

jameil1922 said...

rj... 1) pretty sure i know someone who would consider getting engaged for that reason 2) huh uh 3) i can take a wild guess on that one.

liz... i want a house with a husband who is bringing in some money. that's the only def. of house husband i know!! did she know this in advance??

b... see no.

pcd... not you too!! lol. but that's not the reason you got married, right??

diva... get to work! enough w/the excuses already!!

PCD (Pretty Circle Drawer) said...

HECK NO!!!!!!!!!!! i got married for money, honey!!!

PCD (Pretty Circle Drawer) said...

^^^^^joking-HA HA HA!!!!!

jameil1922 said...

pcd... YOU AIN'T GOTSTA LIE CRAIG!! i actually did have a friend who said she was getting married for love the 1st time (he's a jerk) and if that didn't work out she'd marry for money the 2nd time.