2.25.2011

Speechless

I guess I should explain the relationship first.  My dad dated a woman for years.  The result was my older sister and brother.   A few years later our dad married my mom.  My sister and I were the result.  Through all of that my brother and sister's mom was very nice to us.  All of us, my mom included.  Around Christmas we found out her cancer had spread throughout her body.  Last night my brother & sister's mom died and I have no idea what to say.

9 comments:

K. Rock said...

That is terrible. I am no good at these situations either. Just try to be there for them if they need you. I am sure they would appreciate that.

Sha Boogie said...

Sad. Death and condolences are always awkward for me. I don't know what to say.. how to act to the person mourning during and after.. but, I'm sure whatever you say will be appreciated..

GorgeousPuddin said...

I'm so sorry!! Just being there and listening always helps. And hugs if they want them. You cook so bringing food is nice. People forget to eat and something hot and good will be appreciated.

((((HUGS)))) to you!

Nerd Girl said...

I'm sorry to hear this and hope that you are able to be there for them in the way they most need you to be.

mrstdj said...

Sorry to hear this. I agree with everyone. Just letting them know that you are there if and when they need you in a good first step. And, GP is right - if they are local, whipping up a big pot or pan of something yummy would help.

Jameil said...

Thanks guys.

Sha... LOLOL! That actually made me feel better b/c you sound as awkward as I feel.

I just called him and he sounds stronger than me. He said she was in a lot of pain. They just found out about the cancer in May. She was already stage 4 and unable to walk by December. He's happy she's at peace now. He's on the road headed home so I don't think it's completely hit him yet. I'm sure it hasn't. He sounds pretty good. But I'll be there for him and my sister for the funeral on Tuesday.

Sparkling Red said...

That is so sad. My sympathies to everyone affected.

I recently heard someone who had been through a trauma give this advice: call and ask if there's anything that you can do for them. If they say no thanks, keep calling every once in a while to check in. That lets them know that you're there for them without being intrusive.

1969 said...

So sorry to hear about the loss.

The Goddess said...

I'm so sorry to hear for your families loss. My prayers are with you and your family and wishing her a very peaceful journey.