7.02.2008

Let's Just End It Now

That is absolutely my mantra. If someone is going to stop being my friend, as folks are wont to do, I would rather them do it sooner than later. This also includes romantic relationships. For example, if you have a known quantity of flakiness and like to spread it around, just give me the slice of bread so I can partake already. Nah mean? Because I'd rather not get attached and accustomed to you and then have to cut you out of my life. *whispering* "Sliced up. Wham, wham." *Name that song and artist.* Because I've had people just up and stop talking to me, sometimes for no apparent reason, though, "I got busy" is the most common excuse.

Would you like to hear the list? Or part of it? Ok here it goes.
  • My middle/high school best friend: "I got busy." We were in high school. No one in h.s. is that busy. Especially since I know you and know you don't have any extra-curriculars.
  • My first long-term boyfriend and high school sweetheart: "I didn't have email access or a phone card." Never stopped you before. And you're a computer science major, dummy. Turns out he didn't like me hanging with my guy friends, "I trust you but I don't trust them." You're stupid. I was ready to break up with him anyway, but trust and believe I'm super rational in a break-up. "I don't fight, I don't argue." Name it. Lol. No I don't get violent, either! I ask for reasons, process it and move on, no looking back. "Don't call me no more and don't text me no more." You can name that one, too.
  • My college drinking partner and librarian. I know that sounds crazy but that's what she was. Lol. We always drank together, she had lots of books and was always buying more, and we were nearly inseparable. She stopped communicating 3.5 years ago so I let it go. There were probably signs this was coming because she stayed deciding she didn't like people anymore and cutting them off. But I'm so fab I really didn't think I'd ever fall into that category.

I'm sure there are more but that's enough, right? I know that list probably makes me look like the crazy one. Like, "Why do so many people stop talking to you? The problem's gotta be you." Maybe it is. But I'm like fine wine, baby, I get better with age! You can get on board or get off, fine with me. But (let's break out the southern since I'm passing the Mason/D.ixon in A MONTH!!) if you're gonna bounce, I'ma need you to gon' 'head and hop to it. "I got, no time for fake ones." You can go ahead and name that song, as well if you'd like.

18 comments:

the joy said...

outkast, rashida, project Pat, lil Kim. Someone else can do the titles, lol.

Some people I knew are the same way. But they just kinda taper out. Bygones, huh?

Adei von K said...

spottiotiedopalicious, hit that b- with a bottle... don't know the titles of the rest


i think its you.

matter of fact, i don't like you anymore. i feel we've come to the crossroads of our relationship...








call me later so we can watch "Whose Wedding...", kay? LOVE YOU!

Sparkling Red said...

I used to take it so personally when people dropped out of my life... but no longer. Their loss!
;-)

Torrance Stephens bka All-Mi-T said...

naw folk
u dont look crazy
just sensitive and in touch, thats good

Rashan Jamal said...

Oooh, a name that tune contest. I'll refrain b/c i don't wanna ruin it for everyone else.

I feel you on this. It's weird when people stop talking to you for no reason. Usually, I have the opposite problem though. People wont stop talking to me. LOL

Vdizzle said...

It is definitely not you. People are crazy. I knew this girl in grad school who apparently, I offended her, but she'd wait until a month after I said it and just blow up.

I apologized the first time because I know I can be abrasive. But the second time, I told her she was crazy and needed a life and hung up in her face.

jameil1922 said...

joy... yep.

adei... you don't know the rest?!?! fakin. you're such a hoochie. and a hater. hoochater.

red... i used to, too. now i think i'm more of the just get out of my life so i can move on. the sooner the better.

torr... sensitive? umm... huh? in touch? maybe.

rj... whatever. you just don't know the songs. rarely have the people won't stop talking to me issue.

v... they really are. the drinkin partner was one of those who even knew you were mad, why didn't you say something kind of people. it was crazy.

Sandy C. said...

I'm the opposite. I hang on for way too long. I can be masochistic sometimes. Especially with guys...:(

Emeritus said...

you crack me up. i'm loving your blog more and more.

the joy said...

hoochater? thats so my new word.

8takes a bow for knowing the songs*

Monie said...

Jameil, I am way, way, wayyyyyy overdue in coming over here and checking out your spot. I'm an archive reader so it'll take me a while to catch up but I think I'll do that instead of working today. Heh.

shani-o said...

Ooh, yes. I had this happen last year. College friend/neighbor who was always running over to my place and vice versa. We spent ridiculous amounts of time together, and then she just disappeared.

*shrug*

My mother still asks what happened to her, lol.

Chick called me a couple of months ago, but I didn't return it. You don't get to disappear and reappear. You are NOT David Copperfield.

jameil1922 said...

sandy... oh i'm even worse with guys! it's really like yeah... you can be out! "you're wasting the time of serious ballers!" (yet another song)

emeritus... lol. good!

joy... ha! knowing the songs?? you didn't even do the titles OR all the songs!!

monie... well welcome anyway! girl a while?? that's one word for it! lol. that will definitely last you thru the day and probably take you into a few next week.

shani... yeah... i was stank to the ex-best friend about 7 years ago. no communication whatsoever since. i was nice to the ex about 7 mos. later then didn't talk to him again until his grandma died about 3, maybe 4 years ago. again, no contact since but my sister talks to his brother so i know he has a baby now.

my mom actually knows people who know the ex-bf so i get updates on her but my mom doesn't ask me about the others any more. she knows the deal! dead@ david copperfield! too funny!

people want me and the drinkin partner to reconnect but i'm like honestly after almost 3 years of not speaking, where and why do you even restart?? at this point my bloggers know way more abt me than she does. i'm not the same person.

Open Grove Claudia said...

Ya know... I don't get it either. I've been plenty busy but never not had time for people I care about. My little sister said this to me when I was working 100 hours a week, flying to see her, and on and on - grow up. I think we treat people like paper towels - use them then throw them away. There's my bitter thought for the day! ;)

DollFace said...

Kudos...I could NOT have said it better.

Time to replace the old with the new once you move.

abritdifferent said...

"But I'm so fab I really didn't think I'd ever fall into that category."

Yes, yes you are! Sorry I haven't been around lately, I haven't blog walked anywhere, so don't feel picked on or singled out. Hahaha! Good luck with the move! I can totally tell how excited you are just reading it!

jameil1922 said...

claud... exactly. and that's why i felt like that. like really? what's the point of acting like that? i KNOW you make time for what you want to make time for.

doll... thx. girl these aren't even people i live anywhere near so it hasn't been a problem for literally years.

brit... lol. thx. i will wipe the tears!! i'm very excited!!

dreamyj said...

GIRRRLLLL...you over there tellin my story. we both know i've had my share of abruptly ended friendships and relationships. i say it's not us, it's just our loving nature that attracts people who can't really handle all we have to offer ;)