6.15.2011

Well I Never!

dress...
I always thought I'd get a dress made.  But who on earth has time for all that in 30 days?  So I went on the great dress search.  I was pseudo-optimistic about what I'd find (I had the closest thing to success at Nordstrom and Neiman Marcus before landing at a bridal salon) then shocked by what I selected.  SO not what I thought I'd want. I haven't put it on since I bought it two weeks ago.  Guess who's RUNNING up the stairs of her mom's house Thursday? MEEEEEE!!! WE SO EXCITED!

Also, my mom hates shopping.  So we were both quite surprised she was so game.  I sprung it on her.  I was like, "We're getting married... July first... Let's go shopping right now!  Like put on your shoes right now!"  Lol.  Extra fun.  It only took two days so that was cool.  And we bonded.  Awww.  My mom's been the best throughout this.   Not pressuring us at all to do anything.

ring...
I've gone back and forth on the ring I thought I wanted enough in the last 8 or so years that I'm extra glad I didn't get married at 22.  I would've had a huge princess cut something or other.  Princess cuts are pretty but no longer me.  Especially once I saw my cousin's BEAUTIFUL round brilliant cut.  Umm... yes please!  Rah bought a place holder ring that is pretty but not my final ring.  Also, I love skinny bands!!  2mm or less please!  I can even get with 1.5 maybe.  Can I see a 1.5mm somewhere???

reception...
I envisioned either a giant dance party or a small dinner party.  I will MOST DEFINITELY miss the dancing as we've decided to go the dinner party route.

planning details...
people who know me didn't believe me when I said I wouldn't care.  I so don't.  I wish I could afford at the very least a day-of planner who can handle all of that stuff I do NOT want to think about.  My mom's helping but pretty much no one else.  I don't even really know what else to delegate.  I don't really want our guests or moms to have to do anything that day but I certainly don't want to do it.

advice...
Unsolicited advice is annoying in the most leisurely of times.  It's 10xs worse when you're planning a wedding.  EVERYBODY can tell you how to plan.  Even that person who's never held so much as a dinner party.  Ugh.  Please shut up unless I ask.  I don't mean like an idea on who can plan for free/cheap... someone please tell me this?  I mean like giving me ideas that will cost me hundreds or thousands of dollars.  Don't give unsolicited advice.  Why is this general rule of thumb ignored with weddings???? Why?

pregnancy...
one step at a time, people.  the SECOND you find out i'm engaged is not the time to talk about procreation.  know what?  let's just make a blanket rule (though i know this won't help at all): that department is never your business.  it is straight up RUDE to ask me if I'm pregnant.  and that's why you're not invited.  if you have to ask, you clearly don't know me.  also... can we be reminded that it's 2011 and shotgun weddings are soooo 1953? 

bridezilla...
I knew I'd never be this person. See: planning.  I hate when people try to call me this even jokingly.  It smacks of the 1800s when women were considered hysterical and irrational.   Stop that.

10 comments:

onefromphilly said...

CONGRATULATIONS!!! I wish you and Rashan all the best for years and years of happiness.

Not so Anonymous said...

Wedding in the air!! Yay! I'm glad you and your mom got to bond over dress shopping. And, only two days...that's great! From what I see on television you'd think it takes a lifetime to find a dang dress.

The Goddess said...

I cant wait to see the dress and pics. I cant even imagine what you chose. I'm sure you're going to look amazing.

I used to LOVE shopping but the older I get the less enthused I am about it. That being said certain events do spark the shopaholic in me. Weddings being one of them. SO FUN!!!!

Nerd Girl said...

You are so funny! I'm glad that everything is rolling along smoothly. I guess I'll keep my unsolicited pregnancy advice to myself..

GorgeousPuddin said...

All I can say is you tell em girl! LOL! You seem to have everything handled which is good. I'm juiced!! that you found your dress in two days and that you and mommy had fun finding it.

I wish I knew the free person but I don't :(

Girl!!! I was all over a princess cut but the BRILLIANT!!! shut yo mouf!! Is ALL that!

InnerDiva said...

Aw, congratulations!I used to read both of your blogs back in the day (at work)! This is so exciting, I wish you two the best! Clearly, you have to play "Computer Love" at the party.

1969 said...

I can't wait for the pictures! LOL

If you need easy advice call me. I am a professional planner you know. And free. :)

Sparkling Red said...

I'm super-glad to hear that you found the perfect dress! And I agree - people should NOT be getting their noses into your reproductive business. It is definitely rude. I don't understand how people don't get that.

Mrs Count said...

This is so exciting!!!!

Jameil said...

onefromphilly... thank you!

nsa... me too! tv makes it look so much scarier/melodramatic than it really is!

tg... i put it on again thursday with my earrings and girrrrl! I was giggling and squealing like mad! :) weddings spark my inner shopaholic, too! i've been so good!

ng... thank you ever so much! lol

gp... mostly handled. i loved finding a dress! we'll get her done free or not. the brilliant? whaaaa??

innerdiva... Thank you and LOL @ computer love. I never would have thought of that.

1969... I totally forgot about that! I don't even know what i need planned. Pitiful.

red... thank you!!! for both! my goodness! people are so out of order!

mrsc... i know! :)