Actual Arby's Encounter

Me: I would like a crispy chicken bacon and swiss sandwich. Just the sandwich.

ACR: Okay. Crispy or grilled?

*whoa loudest talk back in the world...*

Me: Crispy. And small fries.

ACR: Okay and do you want just the sandwich?

Me: ...Yes.

*pull around to the window (which is the highest window in the history of drive-thrus. Did you make it for 18-wheelers? B/c FYI they can't make that turn.)*

ACR: Where in Africa are you from?

*blank look*

Me: I'm not from Africa.

*For real? I'm wearing a head wrap because a BLACK MAN is the president-elect. NOT because I'm from Africa. I will wear it every day for the rest of my life if I so choose!! Oh your world is SO small.*

ACR: Oh you're not? You have an accent? Where are you from?

Me: Charlotte.

ACR: Oh I heard your accent and I just thought you were from Jamaica or Africa or something. My bad.

Me: (stares incredulously... my mouth was probably slightly agape.)

* I should cut you.*

I have NEVER heard anyone say I have an accent (unless I'm talking to my mom in which case it becomes extremely southern) let alone one from another country or continent. Stop being ignorant because you have never left Gainesville. You should know by now that just because this university attracts international students doesn't mean everyone is. Thanks. And I was SO close to saying, "Nope, just regular old black."

You may wonder why I'm responding with what seems like an unnecessary amount of vitriol. Well that's partly because my ancestors were KIDNAPPED from their land, had their culture, language and religion stolen and I have no idea where to even begin to start to research it. I've been watching a lot of documentaries about people and their roots and reading and researching the Civil Rights Movement in Florida (BTW if you know of a historical story that would make a good doc and is based in Fla. or S. GA, please let me know!) and how blacks were not even allowed to eat, drink or ride a bus like white people IN MY PARENTS LIFETIME. My entire family is agape at Barack Obama's election. Literally floored and overjoyed.

My grandmother said she wasn't worried because God gave her a peace that he would be elected. That did not stop her from expounding on how amazing this moment is. And how black men have been beaten down and had their ideas stolen. How "Martin Luther King said 'We Shall Overcome Someday' and now we have." How "Barack Obama should inspire all of us to build our communities and ourselves like he will build this nation." I'm getting emotional up in the library but that's where I'm coming from. While others have the family history and crest and know their great-great-great grandparents came in on the Mayflower, I don't even know how far back Africans are in my family. I will have to get a DNA test just to know an AREA of Africa HOPEFULLY. It's disheartening. The point is when you ask me what part of Africa I'm from, "Dude. I don't know."


Ms.Honey said...

(DEAD) are you serious umm wow give me my food I dont care about your head wrap and what's that got to do with President Elect..wow soo much insanity for one person lol

Opinionated Diva said...

smh...i aint able...CRISPY chicken bacon and swiss...JUST THE SANDWICH!!! And still you have to repeat.

To me you don't have an accent...and since I'm a "yankee" you probably should.

The end of your post...really touching. I found the first relative out of slavery (my great great grandmother on my mother's father's side)...I even have a picture, but like you, I'm still no closer to knowing which part of Africa.

Honestly I suspect, I probably have just as much European and Indian blood in me.

Monie said...

*smh* at the whole encounter...but...I am very interested in this DNA testing thing. I wonder how much something like that costs and how it works. Off to Google...

Momisodes said...

It drives me nuts that some people are still so ignorant.

Sha Boogie said...

Africa or Jamaica? WHAT??? SO random. You should have given them a hearty' gurl, bye!!' lol

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the joy said...

Girl what? What country are you from?! Stop. I get that from East Africans, but not so much from Americans. It reminds me of the Muslim greetings I used to get when I would be too lazy to do my hair.

La said...

Hence why he is working at an Arby's window.

I don't know whether to laugh... or offer to be look out while you hit him in the back of the head with something heavy as he leaves his shift tonight. I'll let you know tho, lol

Open Grove Claudia said...

I've been thinking about doing the DNA test too. But I'm not sure it would give me anything. What would it give you?

I love that someone asked you what country you were from. That's just hilarious

Rashan Jamal said...

Wow, I was shocked when I heard him ask you that, but I wasn't expecting a reaction like that. That was an inappropriate question to ask. I figured he was African himself for him to ask that. Thought he was looking for a long lost relative or something.

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Anonymous said...

LOL! I didn't know Charlotte was in Africa. Hilarious!