How We Met

For weeks my newest readers have been asking how Rashan and I met.  The black bloggers world is very small.  There are no 6 degrees of separation among us.  It's probably one, at most 2.  There is no way there's any black blogger with more than 10 readers outside of their family members who is more than 2 degrees removed.  You like that certainty, huh?  So knowing this, it's no surprise Rashan & I separately read and dismissed each other's blogs about 3.5 years ago. 

We were each in that building our readers phase where we were constantly on the lookout for new blogs.  He was probably trolling the internet for easy women which is why I was dismissed.  Lol.  He says it's because I had a boyfriend at the time... which may or may not be true.  I dismissed him because he was old.  LOL!!  I also didn't find him particularly funny or interesting.  And it turns out, he found me obnoxious.

But for some reason in September 2007, we started reading and commenting on each other's blogs regularly.  When I decided to do NaBloPoMo in November, blogging every day that month, I challenged my blog la familia to join me.  I was very excited about all of the people who said they would join.  IT WAS SO HARD!!!  But with Rashan talking junk, I couldn't stop.  Sound familiar?  Harken back lo 3 months ago when we did it again.  Lolol.  But I digress.

At the end of November, Rashan said, "I bet you can't keep going."  For real, dude?  CHALLENGE!!!!  So I turned it back around on him, "Oh I can DEFINITELY keep going longer than you!!"  (That's what she said.)  We kept going for several months, raggin on each other, trying to goad the other into quitting first.  It was hilarious and fun.  As a result of this goading we started emailing every once in a while.  After a cute post where he said there was a blogger whose number he wanted to ask for but he wasn't sure if he should, he asked for my number but I think I actually was the first to call.

We started talking a few days a week on the phone in addition to our daily or near daily email chats.  By March we were emailing every single day.  By May, we were talking on the phone for hours every day.  More than 2 years later, we haven't missed a day since.  That June we started secretly making plans to meet.  Y'all bloggers are nosy.  You knew something was going on but we weren't telling.  I wanted to meet him but he was in Atlanta, I was in Pittsburgh... and it was... THE INTERNET!!!  AHHHHH!!!  Lol.  He thinks everyone on the internet is crazy... and had plenty of well-documented reasons to think that.  I was apprehensive.  Stace convinced me I should go.  Rashan sent me a copy of his license to send to whoever I wanted, warning me that he looks like a serial killer in that picture-- TRUE.  He just wanted me to be comfortable enough to come.

July 16, 2008 we met in the middle, also known as Nowhereville, Va.  It was one of the most awkward moments of my life.  This person I'd been talking to for months was suddenly face to face.  We were both a bit robotish and nervous.  You know how people say they met for the first time and it was so wonderful and there was no awkwardness?  That it was like they'd always known each other?  They're lying.  I don't believe that.  Lol.  That might happen for somebody (no it doesn't) but it definitely took us hours to warm up to each other in person.  We left each other on July 18th and he asked me to marry him.  SIKE!  Lololol.  He asked me to be his girlfriend and I said, "Sure!"  When we returned, we told bloggers we met via a picture on my blog with the description on his page.

When I went to Charlotte to visit my mom a few weeks later, he'd never been to Charlotte so he came to visit, met my mom, which was planned but then my dad and brother were accidentally in town.  They came over for dinner and he met them, too.  Really weird and funny but it went fine.  He helped me move into my new place in Gainesvillle a couple of weeks later.  I would've been all alone without him.  Then he came back the next week for my birthday and met Stace for the first time.  The three of us are trouble & fun together!!  It was great.  So that's our story.