6.10.2010

How We Met

For weeks my newest readers have been asking how Rashan and I met.  The black bloggers world is very small.  There are no 6 degrees of separation among us.  It's probably one, at most 2.  There is no way there's any black blogger with more than 10 readers outside of their family members who is more than 2 degrees removed.  You like that certainty, huh?  So knowing this, it's no surprise Rashan & I separately read and dismissed each other's blogs about 3.5 years ago. 

We were each in that building our readers phase where we were constantly on the lookout for new blogs.  He was probably trolling the internet for easy women which is why I was dismissed.  Lol.  He says it's because I had a boyfriend at the time... which may or may not be true.  I dismissed him because he was old.  LOL!!  I also didn't find him particularly funny or interesting.  And it turns out, he found me obnoxious.

But for some reason in September 2007, we started reading and commenting on each other's blogs regularly.  When I decided to do NaBloPoMo in November, blogging every day that month, I challenged my blog la familia to join me.  I was very excited about all of the people who said they would join.  IT WAS SO HARD!!!  But with Rashan talking junk, I couldn't stop.  Sound familiar?  Harken back lo 3 months ago when we did it again.  Lolol.  But I digress.

At the end of November, Rashan said, "I bet you can't keep going."  For real, dude?  CHALLENGE!!!!  So I turned it back around on him, "Oh I can DEFINITELY keep going longer than you!!"  (That's what she said.)  We kept going for several months, raggin on each other, trying to goad the other into quitting first.  It was hilarious and fun.  As a result of this goading we started emailing every once in a while.  After a cute post where he said there was a blogger whose number he wanted to ask for but he wasn't sure if he should, he asked for my number but I think I actually was the first to call.

We started talking a few days a week on the phone in addition to our daily or near daily email chats.  By March we were emailing every single day.  By May, we were talking on the phone for hours every day.  More than 2 years later, we haven't missed a day since.  That June we started secretly making plans to meet.  Y'all bloggers are nosy.  You knew something was going on but we weren't telling.  I wanted to meet him but he was in Atlanta, I was in Pittsburgh... and it was... THE INTERNET!!!  AHHHHH!!!  Lol.  He thinks everyone on the internet is crazy... and had plenty of well-documented reasons to think that.  I was apprehensive.  Stace convinced me I should go.  Rashan sent me a copy of his license to send to whoever I wanted, warning me that he looks like a serial killer in that picture-- TRUE.  He just wanted me to be comfortable enough to come.

July 16, 2008 we met in the middle, also known as Nowhereville, Va.  It was one of the most awkward moments of my life.  This person I'd been talking to for months was suddenly face to face.  We were both a bit robotish and nervous.  You know how people say they met for the first time and it was so wonderful and there was no awkwardness?  That it was like they'd always known each other?  They're lying.  I don't believe that.  Lol.  That might happen for somebody (no it doesn't) but it definitely took us hours to warm up to each other in person.  We left each other on July 18th and he asked me to marry him.  SIKE!  Lololol.  He asked me to be his girlfriend and I said, "Sure!"  When we returned, we told bloggers we met via a picture on my blog with the description on his page.

When I went to Charlotte to visit my mom a few weeks later, he'd never been to Charlotte so he came to visit, met my mom, which was planned but then my dad and brother were accidentally in town.  They came over for dinner and he met them, too.  Really weird and funny but it went fine.  He helped me move into my new place in Gainesvillle a couple of weeks later.  I would've been all alone without him.  Then he came back the next week for my birthday and met Stace for the first time.  The three of us are trouble & fun together!!  It was great.  So that's our story.

17 comments:

pserendipity said...

I love how we met stories! I love you guys story! Sending the license? Ingenious!

1969 said...

Just invite me to the wedding.

mrstdj said...

Cute story!! LOL @ "We were both a bit robotish".

Naima said...

Awwwwwwwww!!! I had no idea!! How cute!! One time for the internet ;o)

K. Rock said...

This story is so cute!! I had no idea that you guys met through the internet. It's like a effin fairy tale. Super cute.

Not so Anonymous said...

What a lovely story. It made me smile the whole time.

Ladynay said...

Very nice, never knew the details of how it all went down. Nice! I think I was ghostly lurking both of your blogs when I started putting the pieces together about you two.

Trish said...

I remember the story but I was a lurker back then, so I didn't comment. I still think it's a cute one!!

Ms. Behaving said...

Awwwww...what a great story. Oh and I'll be expecting my invite to the wedding too! Yup.

GorgeousPuddin said...

Thank you for the details! That was a lovely story. I'm glad you two found each other and I hope your love continues to grow.(i know I can be corny)

It is like a fairy tale and you know all fairy tales end with and we lived happily ever after!!!!!

Nerd Girl said...

Great story! I knew bits and pieces, but never the whole deal from beginning to current.

I know what you mean about telling folks you met on the internets. A certain blogger and I met on the internets and I feel so weird when people ask how we met, I tell them,and then I get "the look!"

Adei von K said...

"And it turns out, he found me obnoxious."

WHO??? YOU??!?!?!?!

LOL!

So cute to see in print!

Miss B said...

Awwww cute!!!

Slice of Pink said...

Love it!

(and love that pink feather clip--super cute!)

Sparkling Red said...

You guys are a sweet couple. :-)

Jameil said...

pseren... thanks!

1969... lol. no comment.

mrs. tdj... we really were tho! lol

nai... yeah internet!!

k... the interweb fairy tale. lol. thx

nsa... thanks! :)

lady... thanks! :) lol you lurker!

trish... back to back lurkers! lol

msb... 1) thanks. 2) shhh

gp... thanks! :) it amuses me that you guys think it sounds like a fairy tale.

nerd... :) omg when we tell people about the interweb the reactions are many and varied but there's most often a polite shock. LOLOL! Then they act like... well it wasn't on a dating site so it's okay. why?? why does it matter? so silly.

adei... hush up that NOISE!!

miss b.... thanks!

slice... merci!

red... gratzie!

Sha Boogie said...

OMG! How cute! Snaps for you and Rashan! Yes I said snaps..