6.13.2006

Men Are Psycho or Why Men and Women Can't Be Friends

So you know how I've gone out w/box boy in groups several times. Never alone b/c you know how men are. You go out and then they think its like that and it just becomes so messy. Regardless of the fact you told them several times you got a man. Then they start singin old school songs, "Whatcho man got ta do wit me?" "I got a man." "I'm not tryna hear that see?" "I gotta man." "You gotta what? How long you had that problem?" Ridiculous.

So anyway. He brings that ish to work and now I'm really mad. He calls himself trying to spread rumors that we have something going on b/c he thinks its funny and makes him look good. Needless to say, I will not be going out with him again. I'm not trying to be a part of any work gossip mill. Especially when I'm NOT DOING ANYTHING!! Damn! I'm minding my own business and see what happens? Its so painful to be fly. It really is.

Now why is this an issue? Because I've always had male friends. Lots of them. It happens that way when you're boy crazy way ahead of your time. Plus I have just always had a lot of friends. So I'm used to being able to communicate with males and not have it go anywhere. I'm tired of people trying to come on to me when I've told them I'm not interested!!! Make it stop!! Obviously when you're grown you're not allowed to have male friends anymore because men are psycho!!

27 comments:

Ladynay said...

It's so painful to be fly, it really is.....

You go girl! HAHAHAHAHAHHAHA

Dreamlover said...

lol, I have found that in male-female relationships that I have now, one person kinda likes the other.

Even though this is not true in all cases, it is true in some!!

Mrs A. said...

see, you already should have known, unless you are muggly and fugly, blind crippled & crazy, MEN & WOMEN CANNOT BE FRIENDS, cuz most times, someone is liking someone. unless ya'll grew up together or something, but it usually never works...SERVES YA RIGHT for trying to be nice :-P

Serial_Dater said...

Rule #1 - Never go out with a man from work on a secluded one-on-one basis unless you planning on boning. Cause that's exactly what he's thinking.

jameil1922 said...

lady... lololol it is!

dl... arghhhh!! i've never had that issue before! and it drives me crazy!!! i mean in college of course i had a couple of friends who tried to take it somewhere beyond the regular friend level, including the bf, but still. i still had a lot of male friends.

miss a. you're right. you're right. i knooooow you're right. i will never be nice again.

serial... ah yes. i forgot to include this gem from the bf: when you tell a man you have a man, its like telling him you have a puppy. if you're not acting like you have a man/man is not around, then there it is. he ain't worried about it. i don't even try to go out alone w/these fools b/c i know how men are but come on!!!! ugh. i give up.

The Sarccastik Variable Why said...

well it always happen when either a man/woman are happy with themselves and not trying to have any "relations"....everybody comes out of the woodworks, walls, floors....windshield...u get the drift...

It's so painful to be fly....that's comedy...i might have to borrow that this week....

Soldier said...

Lol @ "painful to be fly"

Guess who's back from his 2-lifetimes-long hiatus LOL

A man can become a woman's friend, but seriously it dosn't go the other way around, women are just too beautiful, we just wanna own each and everyone of you women !!

LOL

Supa said...

"It's so painful to be fly"

I need that on a T-shirt!!

But - I love boys. They're stupid.

Zlogical said...

I hear you sister. I'm male (not gay) have a lot of women friends, too. It's a fine line that we dance, but I've managed to dance the dance for years without going all out--not to say that I don't think about it or don't want to as a man it's just that we establish a better relationship by being upfront. "Don't lie--you know I'm hot (fly or whatever)." Yes I recognize, but I am old school with one woman in heart and mind. See you are only in my mind and she's in my heart and that's the difference. I see you every day multiplied on TV, and in reality. When it all comes out in the end--what is worth beyond just being friends? That's the card that I carry. Because believe me I have some fine women friends. Many I have been with for years. I seen how they've grown over the years and how close we remain--that is a greater reward for me to have such a relationship. But with all that said it takes a lot of work to be just friends, and I agree there is a phenomena with multiple variables that play against friendships. If you weak at any given time--you will be played male or female!

Stacie von Kutieboots said...

I think it is possible for men and women to be friends!!! I know I'm still a little green but I have platonic guys friends! The again, I'm singel and not giving off that "I'm taken" vibe...people always want what they can't have. I think that's what it is.
Ummmmm, I'ma need box man to stop. he is toooooo lame if he's that old and spreading rumors like we're in highschool!! Grow up!

spchrist said...

Yikes...homeboy is an asshole

So...Wise...Sista said...

Well there you have it...that plutonic thing don't fly as a grown up. Why, cuz dudes are tired of collecting more chicks that they can't bone. They got enough from high school and college. And didn't I done told you that what dudes hear when you tell them you got a man is, 'we gotta be discreet.' ;)

Watch out for work dude...he's got low self esteem. lol

Peabo DeBarge said...

It is possible to be just friends with a chick...I have plenty of fine female friends that I don't want to skeet on. but then again, I don't have a problem differentiating between the women I want to watch a game with and the women I want to play games with.

On another note, it is painful to be fly. But hey, somebody has to do it. Why not us ?

*Miguel pops his collar and exits the comment box*

Southern Girl said...

So cliche, but "men...you can't live with em'can't live with out em'"....

Karamale said...

witcho fly azz.

The Very Reverend Ace Clemmons, Jr. said...

i'm with stacie on this one. i think M&W can be friends. Sure there are girls im friends with that i would hit, but i wont, and thats not why i'm friends with them.

jameil1922 said...

sarcasstik.. you're right. i do get off that certain "i don't need you or anyone" vibe.

soldier! bout time!! geez!

supa! oooh make me one too! faaaaaabulous. lol. and i don't even wear tees.

zlog... see i've never had a problem thinking men and women can't be friends. maybe its you can't make friends w/members of the opposite sex after a certain point. i have no idea. but every male i've met in the last 10 months ages 22-35, not including the bfs friends, has tried to get at me. some subtle, others not so subtle. regardless, i'm not down!

stace.. right! i'm sayin back off loser!! geez. that shit is so wack. and he had the nerve to offer to show me and the bf around. heelllllllllllll no. b/c you ain't reliable to keep foolishness out your mouth and if you disrespect my man, i will lose my cool. and you don't want to see that.

sp... i know that's right!

wise... that's a wrap for his ass. too bad i have to work w/him. that's why i would never want get involved romantically w/someone from work and here i didn't even do shit and its creating a situation! bastard.

senor... you and your names!! lmao. oh i'm rockin the flyness w/o a doubt. i've always had friends who could differentiate b/t watchin the game and runnin game too. that's why my frustration keeps growing the longer i live here. where are my hu peeps when i need them?

southern girl... oh i can't live w/o men. men are great! lolol

karamale... ain't i tho?! lol

ace... i hear you. but all these fools i've met in the last year can't hear you. can you speak up plz?

J. Montez "Real Talk" said...

I think men and women can just be friends...but you just have to think establish that out front...(dude at your job...something ain't quite right with him)

Now if a dude gets at you at the club, he's not trying to be your friend. Its very rare that a guy approaches you on some I think you're beautiful and I wanna get at you stuff and then accepts...
O.K. we can just be friends and actually not try to advance to more than that.

CNEL said...

I definitely think that men and women can be friends. I have a lot of female friends, and our relationships remain friendships, why because we respect each other for not just our sexuality, but our individuality.

Sometimes you want to say it's a line there, and you so obviously walked right past it.

Toni Phoenix said...

It is painful to be fly. That's why, you gotta watch who gets some of that time.
Yeah that girl is a freestyler...
But yeah, its sucks when rumors are spreading. Just remember everytime they say your name, they prove how fly you are. Beauty is also in the eye of the bitch that envies you.

Don't Oppress Me said...

Slash his tires. Open up a paperclip and teach him a lesson.
Or maybe that's not such a good idea.

Fresh Azimiz =

Lil Bow Wow is exactly 6 mo. and 8 dys. older than me.
And about 14 in. shorter. Ha.

meljoy said...

i saw your shoe reply from ladynay, try modells! I just got a pair for $40...??

Epsilonicus said...

My girlfriend is having this problem. All of her male friends are now suddenly "falling" for her. I just laugh but she does not know hwo to handle the situation becasue she is so used to having male friends. Now she kind of has to back away from them.

Its hard having male-female relationships in which no one falls for the oher. They are definitely rare.

LaurenAshleigh said...

LOL soooo painful to be fly.

What's wrong with men? Why is it impossible for them to recognize that while they can't function without thinking about sex, we don't wanna screw everyone we hug? Geesh.

It's pretty hard to find good male friends, most of my friends are male. Most of them also would sleep w/me if i gave them even remotely a chance. Most of the others are gay. But there's a small core group of guys that I call on just like I do my girlfriends. It's possible; just not common.

jameil1922 said...

montez... yeah, that works in theory. but there are several dudes i've told i'm not interested who can't understand that. when i tell you off the jump i really don't understand why you're givin me the eye and tryin to show me one-eyed willie.

cnel... yeah... i used to have that.

oppress... LMAO!! paperclips and slash his tires. hilarious. i had a crazy roomie from the NO who taught me how to slash tires. i have no plans on using that knowledge, but i know how to do it so they can't be repaired.

epsi... exactly! i've never really had to push my male friends away. only maybe one or two and we stayed friends. so this whole i'm going to continue to make you uncomfortable thing baffles me.

la! i want my male friends back dammit!!!

DP said...

platonic relationships between men and women usually rely almost exclusively on the men.

Women are usually<-(key word)inclined towards friendship with whomever, be they men or women as they are just more emotionally secure and not blinded by the seemingly inexhaustible search for the Oh-Face.

Men (like me) who WANT to be friends with women...have no such issues.

jameil1922 said...

BINGO. damn dp. you always come over here and drop the real deal!! thank you!! seriously. i never have a problem having male friends. and i can look at them like i see my female friends to an extent. i don't want to make out w/my women friends so why would i want to make out w/my male friends? i wouldn't. and everytime i was comfortable w/one of my male friends, it was always them who had to try to take it to the next level. and i was always baffled like, but i thought we were friends? now i have to change how i looked at you.. i don't understand. YOU wanted this friendship in the first place and now you want to flip the script? ridiculous.